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How to Make Your Own Luck
The secret of good luck is not to trust it, one must learn to create their own luck. “The ability to attract and maximize good fortune is more about choice than chance,” says Richard Wiseman, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the
Fortunately we can all learn to be more like them. When Wiseman, who’s also the author of The Luck Factor (Hyperion 2003), showed volunteers how to improve their luck by adjusting their attitudes and actions, 80 percent of them increased their happiness, confidence, and success in just one month. Try these five strategies to bring more luck into your life:
- Have High Hopes- “Lucky and unlucky people have amazingly different expectations about the future,” says Wiseman. His research shows that because the less fortunate count on things to go wrong, they often give up prematurely--- not bothering to send a resume because they don’t’ believe they’ll get hired or not joining an online dating service because they know they wont’ meet anyone special, for example. Those who are the luckiest, on the other hand, have a more positive outlook. They’re certain that the future is bright and as a result attempt to achieve their goals despite the odds. Part of this conviction lies in recognizing how fortunate they already are, says Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, a life coach in
. Rather than limiting their view of luck as something extraordinary, they recall when they got a last minute doctor’s appointment or a great deal on a pair of shoes they’d planned to buy at full price. To raise your expectations imagine an upcoming scenario that turns out in your favor. Before going into a meeting or on a first date, for example, close your eyes and picture yourself appearing confident and relaxed. When the real event arrives, you’re more likely to anticipate and realize the best possible results. Aurora, Colorado
- See the Good in the Bad- A glass half full perspective allows you to effectively cope, and often thrive, during difficult times. When you lose a promotion to a less qualified person, for instance, or your best friend tells you she’s moving across the country. “Lucky people view setbacks as temporary and believe that everything turns out for the best,” says Azriela Jaffe, author of Create Your Own Luck (Adams Media Corporation, 2000). But what if you’re not naturally optimistic and don’t easily see how things could have been worse, that instead of just twisting your ankle when you fell down the stairs you might have broken your leg? Focus on the advantageous results of negative experiences by looking beyond the obvious, difficult circumstances or emotions of a situation. For example, after you ended a turbulent relationship with your last boyfriend, you met the man you became your husband. Or perhaps a major flood in your bathroom inspired you to search for and find the perfect apartment. “Sometimes lucky comes disguised and only time reveals how fortune we really were,” says Disbennett-Lee, who has firsthand experience with this. Though Disbennett-Lee didn’t know it when she lost her corporate job, being laid off was one of the best things that ever happened to her, since it allowed her to start her own business.
- Trust Your Instincts- The unlucky often ignore their intuition when making decisions and later regret it. Lucky people, on the other hand, respect and follow their hunches. “Instead of looking at a situation rationally, they use their instincts as a sign to proceed with caution or to move full speed ahead,” says Wiseman. To increase your intuitiveness, try this exercise: When you’re uncertain about two choices, pick one and commit your decision to paper. If you’re not sure whether to end a relationship, for example, write a detailed letter to your partner explaining that it’s over and why you’re ending it. Then ask yourself how it feels to hold your future in your hands. Does sending the letter feel right? That’s your intuition talking; tune in and you’re more likely to make the right decision. To tap into it, make an effort to quiet your mind through exercise, meditation, or retreating to a peaceful place once a day. “Even turning off the television or radio while you’re preparing dinner will give you the time you need to connect with your intuitive power,” Wiseman says.
- Expand Your Network- The bigger your web of contacts, the better your odds of finding opportunity. “Luck is a numbers game,” says Disbennett-Lee. “The more you’re out in the world, the greater the chance you have to meet people who can help you.” For those who are outgoing and gregarious, building a large ‘network of luck’ comes easily---they’re more likely to meet friends for coffee, to attend industry networking events or to strike up a conversation with a stranger. If you’re shy or introverted, start by watching your body language. In Wiseman’s studies, the most fortunate people smiled twice as much and engaged in more eye contact than their counter parts. They also pointed their bodies toward the person they were speaking to, uncrossed their arms and legs and gestured frequently. The result: “Communicating comfortable, inviting signals makes you the target of other friendly approaches,” says Disbennet-Lee.
- Spice Things Up- Lucky people routinely introduce variety into their lives. The changes don’t have to be large or time-consuming. Simply taking another route to work now and then or occasionally trying a different restaurant creates new opportunities for beneficial change. For example, Wiseman tells of a study subject who randomly chose a color before arriving at a party and then introduced himself to other guest who were wearing that color, regardless of whether they were his ‘type.’ Besides meeting some interesting people, he had more fun, another important link to luck. Personality tests have show that good fortune tends to make you more relaxed and laid back. If you’re not naturally open to novelty in your life, make a list of a half dozen things you’ve never done before but wouldn’t mind trying, from taking an improv class or learning to scuba dive. Number the options from one to six. Then, one by one, carry out each chosen adventure. You’ll be amazed by how often you’ll find luck in the unlikeliest places.
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