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Thursday, May 31, 2012

To Draw an Unknown Male Lover

To perform this spell you will need:

  • Red Penis Candle
  • Attraction Oil
  • Pen and Paper

Begin by writing a brief description of the type of lover that you are interested in attracting. When you are satisfied with what you have written, turn the paper a quarter turn to the right and then write your own name 9 times crossing and covering the description as you go. When you are done, set the petition aside.

Carve the words "Unknown Lover" on the red penis-candle and anoint it with attraction oil as well. Set your candle on an overturned saucer with your petition underneath. Light the candle and fervently pray the scripture below nine times:

"Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits." ----Song of Solomon 4:16

As you pray the scripture, think about the lover you want to attract and the activities that you wish to perform. Allow the candle to burn out on its own and then inspect any left over wax for signs.

Note: If you don't have a penis-candle you can use any phallic-shaped red candle.To make the spell even more powerful, you can dress the candle with your own sexual fluids.

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Spiritual Waters

Water--itself vital to human life--has always played an important role in religious and magickal rituals. Water is commonly used in religious rites to cleanse people, places, or things. In the Baptist Church in which I grew up, people were ritually immersed in a natural body of water by the preacher to symbolize their “rebirth in Christ”--an outward sign of their inward spiritual transformation. 

In the Catholic Church, holy-water (water blessed by a Priest) is often sprinkled on people, objects, or in dwellings such as houses to bless and cleanse them of any negative energy. In the Hoodoo Tradition, many different baths are often prescribed for various conditions. These baths often contain an herb(s), mineral, or chemical in addition to the water depending on the need of the individual. 

Many spiritual-waters began as herbal perfumes or colognes and thus often have an alcohol base despite being identified as water. Over time spiritual practitioners began using these perfumes or colognes in accordance with the magickal correspondences associated with the herbs they contained. For this reason, spiritual waters are often added to baths, floor-washes, or rubbed onto the body. Some may be used to feed mojo bags, wash talismans, roots, or clean candles before their use in spells. Finally, some spiritual waters may be used as offerings to spirits or the ancestors in some cases. 

Selected Spiritual Waters 

  • Holy Water may be made by putting three pinches of salt into a vial of water and fervently praying the 23rd Psalm over it. 

  • Peace-Water is used to bring peace to an environment as well as to prevent negative people and/or entities from entering the household. It may be sprinkled in the four corners of a room, or the four corners of a property. To make peace-water brew a tea of fresh basil leaves, add a splash of bay rum and a few drops of liquid bluing. 

  • War-Water is used to bring about disruption in a household by forcing its inhabitants to fuss and fight with one another. To make effective war water, place three iron nails in a glass jar of water add some magnetic sand and Spanish Moss. Traditionally, to use war-water you would break the glass jar on the doorstep of your enemy where he or she would step in the mess and be "poisoned through the feet". 

  • Bay-Rum is an astringent perfume that has famously been used by men as an aftershave. It can be placed in baths for personal cleansing, used as an offering to spirits, or placed on the tip of a broom which is used to sweep a carpet to cleanse it of evil messes. To make bay rum add bay-leaves and allspice berries to a bottle of rum. 

  • Florida-Water is a floral scented water that was originally used as a perfume cologne by both men and women in the 19th century. It has many and varied uses in the Hoodoo Tradition such as an offering for spirits, protection of the home (by putting it in a spray bottle and misting it in the air), protection, and cleansing objects in a similar manner as Holy-Water. 

Carolina Dean 

Mailbag Monday: Magic or Magick?

In today's issue of From the Mailbag, Matt from Dallas asks
Merry Meet Carolina, 
I've only discovered your blog a few months ago and am still reading entries but I've really enjoyed everything that I've read so far.  I'm new to Wicca but I've noticed that you, and a few other authors, often spell magic with a K at the end. What's that all about?

MM, Matt and thanks for your question.  

Magick was the proper spelling for magic during the period between the late 15th century and up until around the mid 1600's. As the English language evolved, the K at the end was dropped giving up the modern spelling as magic.

In the modern era, Aleister Crowley is often given credited with coining the term magick, which he defined as "the art and science of causing change to occur in conformity with will." His purpose for replacing the k was to distinguish occult magick from the magick of stage magicians and illusionists.

Carolina Dean

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Monday, May 28, 2012

The Hag that Rides You

The Boo-Hag, the Hag that Rides You, or simply Hags are terrifying entities found in cultures all over the world and by many other names. They are described as both ugly, older women as well as young, beautiful ones. In either case, they may or may not be witches but who are always possessed of strong spiritual powers.

Hags are believed to remove their skin at night and sneak into their victim's home to drink their blood, steal their voice, or give them nightmares. A common behavior of the hag is to 'ride' the victim in his or her sleep depriving them of needed rest. Over long periods, individuals have died of exhaustion. People who claim to have been "hag-ridden" report waking up in the night with a sensation of something heavy on their chest and being unable to move. (See sleep-paralysis). These victims often report being tired and exhausted the following day after having not gotten a good night's sleep.

Methods of combating the Hag include laying a loaded shotgun across the head of the bed, since Hags detest the smell of gunpowder (sulfur). Forks have also been placed under the pillow to prevent being ridden. Other tools used to ward off Hags include placing a straw-broom or a colander under the bed in the belief that the Hag would have to count every straw or every hole distracting her until the sun would come up.

If a hag was caught in the daylight without her skin, it was believed that she would die. Some folktales tell of people finding the Hag's skin hanging in her closet and filling it with salt which is said to burn and severely injure her when the Hag puts her skin back on.

Photo "Sad Bag Lady" courtesy of another time, this woman living on the fringes of society would have been a prime target of suspicion for being a Hag. 

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Blessing An Altar Image

As spiritual practitioners we often maintain at least one altar in our home on which our tools, candles, and other symbols of our faith can be found. Images of our spiritual allies and/or deities are often a focal point for our sacred spaces as well.

Making a habit of cleansing one’s tools and materials is a very important practice to maintain. You may think that you are safe with a new deity image, however the materials use to make it probably has been handled, the machines used to manufacture them are maintained by people whose energy can be transferred to the image through the manufacturing process, and the final product is probably handled by at least one person for quality control.

If you purchased your deity image from an online store, you don’t know the environment they it has been stored it, how it has been handled, or how many people have handled the statue. If you purchased deity image from a brick-and-mortar store you then have to take into account all the employees who may have handled it but also the number of customers who picked up the item and considered buying it before you came along and purchased your deity image.

In these cases I often bless my altar images with a spiritual bath by bathing the doll in the same manner that you would an in-the-flesh client. To begin, I will prepare a bath using cleanings herbs and curios such as Hyssop, Lemon Balm, Rue, Rosemary, etc…In the case of this Jesus statue, I will be using Rosemary, Rue, and Kosher Salt.

Typically I arrange my bathing area in my kitchen sink. The area is cleaned thoroughly before hand and, in order to transform the area into a ritual space, I remove the mundane items which can usually be found on or around the typical kitchen sink such as the dish drain, hand-soap, dish-rag, etc… In addition, I will place two candles off to the side of the sink for the image to pass through after the completion of the bath and a clean white-cloth for it to rest upon while it dries.
When you are ready to begin, the candles are lit and then the image is placed inside the bath-basin. The herbal-bath is poured over its head and allowed to run down its body washing away any and all negativity and previous psychic vibrations. As the water runs down pray that the image be cleansed so that it is just as pure as the deity or spirit that it represents.

Your prayer may be extemporaneous as the spirit moves you, it can be based on a bible verse, or even a prayer that is associated with your spiritual tradition. Whatever avenue you choose, I suggest that you direct your petition to the deity that the image is supposed to represent. Let me pause here to point out that unlike working with a Spirit Doll, you are not asking the deity or spirit to take up residence inside the deity image but rather petitioning deity to cleanse the image that has been cast it is own likeness.

In the case of blessing my Jesus statue I couldn’t help but be reminded of the story found in Luke 7:36-50. Within the context of the story a woman who is described as having led a sinful life hears that Jesus is in a nearby house having dinner. She travels to the house with a jar of perfume and there she washes his feet with her tears and dries them with her own hair. When she is done she pours perfume upon his feet and kisses them. In return for this simple, but powerful, act of love Jesus forgives the woman’s sins.

When you are done washing the deity-image, pass it between the candles and let it rest on the white cloth where it will drip dry. If there is any danger of the image “spotting” you may wish to wipe it down with the dry cloth rather than allowing it to drip dry.

Now that you have cleansed the image, it is time to bless it with a ritual smudging of incense. To smudge the image, light some incense and pass the image through the smoke several time praying for it to be blessed in the name of the deity that it represents. Again, your prayer may be extemporaneous or a traditional one such as Psalm 23 (The Lord is my Shepard…) To seal the blessing, anoint the image with Holy Oil.  I typically anoint the forehead, heart, hands, and feet. Finally, place the deity image on your altar.

In Conclusion 

As you can see it is important to remember that the objects we place on our altar are often man-made and, as such, are susceptible to absorbing the psychic energy from its environment as well as the people in that environment. Ritually cleansing our deity images ensures that they are not only physically clean but also spiritually clean. In addition, the act of cleansing one’s deity image can be a exercise in devotion and thanksgiving for your many blessings. 

 Happy Hoodooing!

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Mailbag Monday : Exploding Candle

I have been confused about a guy I have known for a long time as an acquaintance. We recently had a one night romantic encounter and I have been debating what I would like this to become and what I think he might want. I came home tonight and thought that casting a love spell on him would be fun and harmless.
 I had never done this before. I wrote his name down on a piece of paper and folded it over a few times. Then I etched [his name] on a pink rose scented tea-light with a needle. I pierced the paper with the needle and pinned it on the candle after I had lit it. I was feeling good and waiting for the paper to finish burning to go to sleep when the glass candle holder exploded. I wasn't hurt, but mightily shocked! I had had it for a long time and burnt many candles in it.
How would you interpret this?

Signed, Shocked in Suburbia

MM Shocked,

First I'd like to address your statement that "casting a love spell ...would be fun and harmless". Though for some people magick may be a passing interest, a hobby, or even the subject of a scholarly study it is not "harmless fun." When you practice magick, and do it successfully, you are engaging powerful energies that when unleashed can have serious effects on your life and the lives of others. In addition even when spells don't work the way that we originally intended, that can still have unforeseen consequences.

Many years ago, I cast a love spell on a man that I thought I wanted but who was very wrong for me. After my spell lured him into my bed I found out just how wrong he was. I discovered that he had a long criminal history and was as selfish and ugly on the inside as he was beautiful and charming on the outside. It took a violent encounter with the law to get him out of my life and afterward I was left broke (literally) and broken. I cast that spell in 1997 and 14 years later I am still dealing with the consequences of just one "harmless love spell."

The first thing that you did wrong was acting on impulse. Though there is something to be said for striking while the iron is hot, i.e. performing magick while you are in the mood and your energies are flowing, it should not be done without designing a spiritual plan.  At the very least a divination should have been performed prior to casting your spell in order to determine the probable outcome of your work. 

Had you performed a divination prior to casting your spell, you may have  1) discovered some flaw in your spell 2) been counseled that this man was not right/ready for you at this time 3) been advised to use a different form of magick (such as a mojo bag, or knot spell) or 4) other.

That being said, the signs given for a candle-holder that cracks or explodes largely depends on the the goal of the spell. Generally speaking a cracked/exploding Vigil Light can indicate 

  1. Breaking through an obstacle such as another person's defenses 
  2. Breaking a spell such as a hex that was placed on you. 
  3. Your candle broke because it took a 'hit' for you.
  4. The person is actively working against you and broke your spell before it could have an affect on him or her. 
I know one professional worker who avoids this by only using metal candle-holders and I think that this is a good idea myself. As you can see, there really is no easy answer to your question.  My suggestion is to perform a divination for yourself or have someone perform a divination for you.

A quick turn of the cards indicates your desire to move forward with a relationship in the past (6 of Wands). The Queen of Wands (the Achiever) in the present position here indicates that you want a relationship with this man more than you're willing to admit though your motivation may not necessarily be romantic.  The fact that she is focusing her attention on the future and the Ace of Pentacles seems to indicate that this man is very successful  financially in his life and that is a large part of your attraction to him. The Ace of Wands in the outcome position (especially next to the Ace of Pentacle) indicates that a business relationship rather than a romantic one is possible. 

What I see in this layout is an energetic woman with a drive to succeed who has found a man who can invest in her dream. Overall there are four "fire" cards in this spread and only one "earth" card. The reading seems to suggest that you refrain from coming on too strong with this man and be honest with him (and yourself) about what kind of relationship that you desire with him.

Carolina Dean


Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Mailbag Monday: A Question of Karma

From time to time I get questions sent to me either through my website or my Facebook fan page and many of these questions often serve as the inspiration for some of my blog posts. 

Therefore I've decided to begin a new feature here at Sex, Magick, and the City in which I answer your questions about Wicca, Witchcraft, Hoodoo, Rootwork and related topics which I have covered here in this blog. 

Today's question come from Karen who writes...

I spoke with two Wiccans who indicated that they refrained from harming people because they did not wish to be on the receiving end of karma. I am also familiar with the Wiccan Rede,  'an it harm none, do what thou wilt.' I believe I may have seen examples of karma. I have also seen some people commit violations against others and I am of the opinion that they seemed to have gotten away with their crimes. My query is has it been successfully proven that karma works 24 hours a day? How can we be 100 % sure that what goes around comes around?

MM Karen,

First of all I believe that there has been some misinformation regarding what has been called karma within the context of the Wiccan religion. First of all what some people refer to as Karma when speaking about Wicca is actually a reference to the Three-Fold Law which states that whatever you do for good or bad will come back to you in this life threefold. 

Karma, on the other hand is an Eastern concept that states that your actions in this life will return to you in the next life. According to A Dictionary of Some Theosophical Terms, by Powis Hoult...

"In Indian beliefs, the karmic effects of all deeds are viewed as actively shaping past, present, and future experiences. The results or 'fruits' of actions are called karma-phala"

The Threefold Law and Karma are two separate things.

I also feel that I should point out that you have Witches who are not Wiccan who do not believe in either concept and who actively practice cursing on the basis that it is justified. Justified being the operative word here and in these cases they often let the punishment fit the crime.

You say that you believe that you have seen examples of karma, so I can only assume that you know what a person did in their previous life to warrant some "punishment" in this life. The reason that you may have not seen the results of karma for some people is simply that you will have to wait for them to die, and then reincarnate. You'll then have to find out who they are in that new life and wait them to reap the consequences of their actions.

Now if you are speaking in terms of the Threefold Law, many people think that it is literal. For example, if I walk up to you and slap you then I'll get slapped myself by three times or one time three times as hard. It doesn't work that way. When the consequences of our thoughts, words, and deeds come back to us it is not always in the same form as we sent it out.

Think about it, if I slap you it may hurt, you may be humiliated, you may be reduced to tears, etc... However, if you slap me I may have a high tolerance for pain, my disposition may be such that I laugh off the incident thinking that its pretty funny. The action does not have the same consequence. Therefore, when our actions come back to us the punishment is sometimes much more subjective.

Lastly, you ask me if it has been successfully proven that karma works 24 hours a day? How can we be 100 percent sure that what goes around comes around? I ask you, has the existence of Heaven or Hell been scientifically proven to exist? Has science successfully proven that there is a one true religion and if so what is it?

Clearly the answer is no, of course not.There are very few things that this world's major religions can agree upon; and Wicca is a religion and like all other religions on the face of the earth it does not have all the answers, but our beliefs require a certain amount of faith. It is perfectly natural to want to see those who have wronged us punished for their actions against us. However, no where in any sacred text that I know of does it say that we will always be there when our enemies actions catch up to them.

As Wiccans we do not have to be doormats, there are systems in place both magickally and in the mundane that are at our disposal. If someone has committed a crime against you, call the police. If you fear that you are the target of negative energy, you have other choices as well. They include:

  • Shielding spells to protect you. 
  • Reversing spells to send the energy back to its source.
  • Binding spells to prevent the person from being able to attack you. 

Depending on their interpretation of the Rede, some Wiccans will opt for only shielding themselves believing that reversing and binding is actually doing harm; while other Wiccans do not regard reversing and binding as violations of the Rede.

Ultimately, we as humans have free will. It is up to the individual to make informed choices about their actions for they are the ones who will have to live with the consequences.

Carolina Dean

If you have a question related to any of the topics covered in this blog, feel free to contact me and your question may be answered in a future blog post.

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Review: On the Right Path

Walking Through God to Get to the Goddess

  • Paperback: 366 pages
  • Publisher: Eighty-Eight Publishing
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-13: 978-0615606699

Review: On the Right Path is the somewhat-true story of one woman’s spiritual journey from Christianity to Paganism or in her own words “from hallelujahs to spells, and crosses to cauldrons.”  Only names and places have been changed to protect the innocent---the author herself. The story begins with Tara as a precocious young girl growing up in a home where she was encouraged to question authority rather than blindly follow the brand of organized religion to which her family belonged.

Left with very few friends due to her “outsider” status Tara decides to commit herself to Christianity wholeheartedly. Earnestly believing that if she just followed the rules as set forth by her Church all the answer she had been seeking would be revealed to her. However, the more she interacts with Christians the less dedicated she becomes to this path. Along the way, her inquisitive nature leads her to seek answers outside of Christianity where she discovers the religion of Witchcraft.

The author’s writing style is quite intimate and you get the feeling that you are reading a stranger’s diary---complete with grammatical as well as editorial errors---though it is not written in diary-form. In fact, except for a few details I felt like I was reading my own childhood diary. No journey is complete without a few mishaps and I feel that the grammatical and editorial mistakes lend a sense of realism to the author’s story.

However, if the reader can look past these few mistakes they will find themselves asking the same questions as Tara learn with her along the way. Not only that, but the author’s inquiring nature encourages the reader to not only examine what they believe, but also why. It is clear that the author is committed to finding her own truth and On the Right Path promises to be the first of many stops along the way. I look forward to the next installment. 


Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Mailbag Monday: Abundance Checks

Todays letter comes from Estrella Amante, she writes

I saw your version of The Abundance Check on your Facebook Fan Page. Would love to know how your version works for your clients. The Abundance Check has been successful for many being non-specific so as not to limit the manifestation. Having it be specific changes the original intent, so it might become even more of a powerhouse.

How did you find out about it? Of course I'd be ultimately flattered if you saw it on my blog or listened to[name removed] recent blogtalk radio show when he mentioned it. Glad the check concept is getting around!  People like it, it helps them stay focused, and it works!

MM Estrella, 

Thanks for your question. For those that have never heard of these tools, Abundance Checks are checks that you write to yourself from a Higher Power such as God, the Universe, the Law of Attraction, etc... They can be written for either a specific amount or in some cases with no amount at all. People who use them often use their own personal checks, a blank check printed online, or even a blank check drawn on paper.

Filling the check out to yourself is an act of faith. It is not done without the absolute belief that you can have what you are asking for.  If you do not truly believe that you deserve abundance or cannot attract it into your life, then you won't. Those who claim success with abundance checks often find that though they may not get the million-dollars they ask for they will often get a lesser amount that they need.

I often make the practice of writing abundance checks to myself into a little ritual. On the day of the New Moon, I will fill out the check at my altar, anoint it with money-drawing oils and then smoke it in incense while making my prayer/petition for abundance. When I am done, I will fold the paper towards me three times and leave the abundance check on my prosperity altar. The check will remain on my prosperity altar until the Full Moon at which time I will burn the check asking that as it burns away to nothing may my debt likewise dwindle down to nothing. 

I first heard about Abundance Checks when I was a member of a social network site for Wiccans, Witches, and Pagans called Covenspace. One of my online friends named Amber M. wrote a blog entry about them and I have been using regularly using abundance checks since then. Later I also read about them in The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne (pages 98-99). 

As you can see, Estrella, I did not learn about Abundance Checks from you; especially since I have no idea who you are, nor have I read your blog. As far as the radio show you mentioned, I have only listened to one episode in which both the host and the guest seriously mislead their listeners with erroneous information about the beliefs and practices of Hoodoo. However, that is the subject of another blog entirely and I will not go into that here at this time. 

Carolina Dean